Many of us have been born into a system that placed upon us an expected path.
That expected path usually involves getting good grades in school, excelling in extracurricular and social activities, graduating from a good college, securing a respectable job, having a fancy car, finding a life-partner and settling down in a good neighborhood, raising a family, climbing the corporate ladder, getting promotions, and the list goes on and on.
Parents, teachers, relatives, neighbors, peers, and society at large measure your success and happiness based on how well you follow this expected path.
Despite their best intentions, this path isn’t easy for the high performer like you.
As a high performer, you’re not shy to roll up your sleeves and put your nose to the grind. That’s why you probably worked very hard (much harder than others) to not just follow this path but excel at it – getting good grades, scoring medals and awards, and crossing every checklist to be honored and applauded by your family and friends.
However, on the other side of the honor and applause is a dark shadow that people rarely talk about or know how to face.
And that shadow is an INTENSE FEAR OF FAILURE.
Since a young age, you have become simply terrified of disappointing people if you failed to follow this expected path with absolute PERFECTION.
This pressure to be perfect and the resulting programming of operating from fear became so deeply engrained as a habit, that it continues to follow you into your adult life. This can manifest into various different personas of perfection such as: